As I read once about an old guy that refused to go back to church with his wife. Their pastor was very puzzled by this, and asked the wife if she minded that he pay a visit to her husband. Several days went by and the pastor showed up to visit her husband as agreed.
The old guy, invited him in and they sat by the fireplace that had a fire going. The pastor picked up a poker and knocked a small chunk of burning wood away from the fire. They both watched this until the fire in that small chunk died out, and then watched the hot glowing amber die out.
The old guy, looked at the pastor and said that he understood and would be in church on Sunday. The pastor then said, it's been great sharing with you see you Sunday morning.