| | I am just wondering,
I am just wondering, has annyoe ever opted OUT of a family gathering because one spouse (typically the in-law spouse, not the one in the family) has been ostracized or made fun of?We've been in this situation, and it only takes 1-2 people to make someone miserable. But when you live IN the same town, it's hard to make excuses. We can't just be gone the day of that holiday, because then they'll arrange something one, two, three days before. I don't want to be hurtful to those who care, or involve them in unnecessary gossip, but aren't there times when, for the sake of your marriage, it's better to NOT GO than to go and then fight later about how the cold shoulders should've been handled??