I agree with HM to an extent. I agree that if my buddies want to come hunt on my land that they should be able to shoot deer, BUT if there is one deer that I WANT personally, they should respect me and my land enough to leave that deer alone. Also, if I tell them to not shoot anything under 3 1/2 years old and they shoot a bunch of spikes or little 4 pointers, I'm going to be upset with them. It all comes down to respect and tdshunter is not getting it from his friends.
now, that said, tdshunter, you don't have to stop being friends w/them, I just wouldn't let them hunt my spot anymore. If they ask why, tell them bluntly that you aren't able to come to their property and kill big bucks on theirs so why should YOU allow them to come to yours and shoot all your bucks?!?! That just doesn't make sense.
Tdshunter, you are making the right decision. I agree with HM that hunting can be very very fun and rewarding with your buddies, but they have to respect your wishes as well. Back to the main point,,,, it is YOUR land, YOUR rules and procedures for that land should be followed by all that occupy it.
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