Recoil is an enactment of basic physics: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In order for the recoil to be the same, you have to be throwing that bullet (same grain) out the muzzle at the same speed (muzzle velocity). If they aren't similar, neither will be the recoil. Kinetic energy OUT the barrel equals the kinetic energy pushing your body backwards. What will affect the recoil is the weight of the rifle (heavier is better), recoil pads, and so forth.
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