my answer to him incase any one ever wants to know, my way of desrcibing it to him..... i feel that our relationship to god is that of a dog and his loving owner. there is unconditinal love between bolth, and they are not equils. the dog unconditonaly loves his owner, and the owner loves his dog. (even when it poops on the floor you still love it, much like how gos loves us when we sin.) he has a dog. my point of this analagay is that. if he lets his dog out side to go to the bathroom, and a pack of cyotties atacks it ( much as the pedofile attacked him) that dose not mean that he wanted it to happen, or is any less real. god give us free will, just as the coyottes had free will. and sometimes things happen that he dose not want to happen because of that.