Federal makes Low recoil ammo for the .40 cal & I am sure others make it as well
"Start out with a low-caliber gun" If looking for a new gun becareful what you think is a low recoil gun
as HM stated full frame vs Polymer makes a difference
with that said I had a polymer Ruger .380 LCP that would like to rip your wrists off but my .45cal 1911 feels more like a .22 compared to that little .380 so don't think a small round will have less recoil it depends on the "package" you are putting that bullet into
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